How to Make a Long Distance Relationship Work!
Did you know that the most Googled question for LDRs is, “how to make a long distance relationship work?” Let’s be honest, when you started doing long distance, didn’t you search that, too? I sure did!
As you’re most likely aware, long distance relationships are not an easy thing to get through… Traveling back and forth to see the love of your life can be emotional, difficult, and sometimes, really stressful. You have to take work, money, and time into consideration. I’ve recently posted a blog on 10 tips on how to make a LDR work, so make sure to click here to check them out. So, now that we got those tips out of the way, let’s talk further…
Here are another 10 tips on how to make a long distance relationship work!
1. Don’t make everything about your relationship
In the beginning of my long distance relationship, I thought I had to plan my entire life and future around it. I didn’t go on vacation with friends, and I rarely did anything for myself… All I was concerned about was saving money to travel to see my partner. I put a lot of things on hold, but now when I look back, I realize that it wasn’t necessary! Yes, you will have to be more careful with how you spend your money, but don’t put everything else in your life on hold! You’re allowed to have fun without your partner!
2. Make plans for your future
In my other blog on LDR tips, I mentioned that it’s important to discuss your future. Have a chat with your partner and figure out exactly what you both want in life. Do you both want to live in a specific country? How many kids do you plan on having? Do you want a modern home, a Victorian style home, heck, do you want to live out on the open road!? Talk about what you want! You’ll start to get excited about it! When the time comes, you and your partner will be more than prepared!
3. Set goals
This goes hand in hand with the point above. It’s important to set some goals for your relationship. How many more years do you want to do long distance? What year do you want to get married? Figure it all out in advance, so you can set goals… This will give you both something to work towards and, of course, something to look forward to!
4. Make time for each other
Believe it or not, talking too much can be detrimental to your relationship. Now, this doesn’t mean to ignore each other for hours of the day… You still have to make sure to take time for one another – even if it’s for 10 minutes! The most important tip from our last blog was that communication is key. Just be careful not to overdue the communication because there are only so many things you can talk about a day! Plus, by constantly talking, you’ll have nothing to catch up on!
5. Plan your trips
This is so much easier said than done, but try to plan out your next visit. By doing this, you’re giving each other something to look forward to, and it makes you feel more secure in your relationship. You’ll know that the time to see your partner is approaching, and it shows that you’re serious about one another. So, try to have your trips set up as early as you can!
6. Send each other packages
We’ve talked about sending each other gifts and letters, but what about getting creative and making a little care package!? You can make a little box with photos, gifts, letters, or whatever else you want in it! It makes for a great surprise and it shows your partner that you’re thinking of them. Click here to check out a few gifts you can send!
7. Show your support
Just because you’re not together in person, doesn’t mean you can’t show support to your partner! Your partner may have just gotten a new job, got a promotion, or even passed their final, so show them that you’re proud! You can congratulate them by calling them, texting them, or as we stated above, sending them a letter. It shows your partner that you’re still there for them without really being there for them.
8. Talk about your problems
Something that has personally helped my relationship thrive is talking about our problems. When my partner and I fight, we talk it out… We don’t scream at each other and dramatically hang up the phone. That solves absolutely nothing and makes problems worse. Talking about how you feel is extremely important. You and your partner are a team, so you have to act like one!
9. Get to know their friends and family
One way to feel closer to your partner is by getting to know their friends and family more personally. Their inner circle is full of people they love and trust, so those people will always be involved in your partner’s life. You’ll have to get to know them eventually, so why not start now!? It’ll make you feel closer to not only your partner’s friends and family, but to your partner, too.
10. Be reasonable
It’s important to remember that you and your partner both have your own responsibilities. You can’t expect your partner to text you back within a few minutes, or to answer every call. You have to be reasonable! If they’re at work, don’t bombard them with texts, and don’t get angry that they’re not replying. Keep their schedules and priorities in mind.
Those were 10 more tips on how to make a long distance relationship work!
I hope these tips will help you and your partner get through your LDR! No matter what, it’s important to stay positive, and always remember why you started your relationship in the first place. No one said that long distance is easy, but that doesn’t mean you can’t eventually break the distance!
If you have any other tips on how to make a long distance relationship work, then please let us know! We’d love to share them in a future blog.